Love As Stages Of Acceptance

Love as stages of acceptance


I heard one song of K.D. Lang with one verse... "I had you in my web/... now here I am instead / hanging by a thread..." which caught my attention.

What occurred to me is that love, for anyone, is stages of acceptance.

First, in pre-adolescence, there is the process of self-acceptance. We first realize and accept that we are sexual beings. Later comes the discovery and acceptance of our straight or gay orientation.

Second, is finding and accepting another, a beloved, and learning and accepting what it is that we expect from that other person, and what they expect from us, along with learning about compromise regarding things that one or the other might find unacceptable.

Third, as a couple, is seeking acceptance of family, friends and community, of falling in love in front of the world's eyes, and have the world smile and say "thats ok, thats good, thats just as it should be."

Lyrics:

One says love is tragic
One says miracle
One becomes a skeptic
One is vulnerable
It's sad to me how quickly
We define
What's wrong with yours
Is right with mine
You think
That we could learn
To let things slide?
Just let things slide

One side moving closer
One is more obscure
One side feeling open
One in overload
All the time it takes
To build things up
And no time
Flat to deconstruct
You think
We could learn
To give it up?
Give it up

The thin ice that we tread
That's dangerously set
The intentions
Go falling through

And you
I had you in my web
Now here I am instead
Hanging by a thread

I'm caught up back and forth
Of balancing my fear
I'll tell though you
For all it's worth
I fell for you my dear

It's sad to me how quickly
We define
What is wrong with yours
Is right with mine
You think
That we could learn
To let things slide?
Let things slide

The thin ice that we tread
That's dangerously trapped
The intentions
Go falling through
And you
I had you in my web
Now here I am instead
Hanging by a thread

KD Lang - Thread - youtube.com